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Scoop Feedback: I’m A Man, That’s What I Am

RE: P.O.V. What's it really like to be a man?

Thanks, some deep topics are covered there, in a positive chatty way. You could sub-title it The Failure of SNAG. You've nailed the modern man's dilemma exactly - how to be post-SNAG, keep the few useful SNAG qualities, and not revert to brute. I'd like to be equally flippant in my comments but since you've opened up a few complex issues I find it hard not to be serious.

Most men would climb over broken glass to make their woman happy, if they only knew what that was. Too often what we're told will make her happy, once achieved, turns out to be not quite enough.

But, men have an equal responsibility to define for each other the behaviour expectation. To be a fulfilled man (my POV) is to enjoy buying flowers, making compliments, being open to affection, as much as to enjoy a beer with the guys, a hard charge into a front-row or a quick drag-off against some smart-alec driver at the lights. When we've learnt to revel in our emotional responses we find much more to share with women than to feel apart from, hence the whole Venus-Mars thing becomes a load of superficial light-hearted rubbish.

I like in your writing the idea that be accepting the differences we will get the best from each other, we can enjoy being men again, in the full sense. Vive la difference!


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