Clinical Psychologist Offers Advice On Dealing With Trauma
You may be struggling to understand how a shooting could occur in New Zealand, and why such a terrible thing would happen. There may never be satisfactory answers to these questions. It’s understandable and to be expected that for the time being, our slice of heaven feels less safe than it did last week.
We do know that it is typical for people to experience a variety of emotions following such a traumatic event. These feelings can include shock, sorrow, numbness, fear, anger, disillusionment, grief and more. Over the next few days and weeks, yourself and other loved ones around you may report problems such as trouble sleeping, concentrating, eating, or remembering even simple tasks. These are all common and should pass after a while.
Even if you weren’t physically present during the attacks, you may still experience stress. This is especially true if someone you care about was close to or affected by the shooting. Exposure to details via the constant news stream and social media may also cause distress. We call this ‘secondary trauma’.
Psychological First Aid is something we can all deliver and this can help alleviate painful emotions and reduce further harm from initial reactions in situations such as this.
Consider the following:
• Help people get their basic needs met where you can
• Listen to people who want to share their stories and emotions, remember there is no right or wrong way to feel. This can also be calming for those affected.
• Give practical suggestions that encourage people towards helping themselves and meeting their own needs
• People who talk about traumatic events have better outcomes
What not to do:
• Don’t force people to share their stories with you, especially very personal details
• Don’t give simple reassurances like “everything will be Ok”
• Don’t tell people what you think they should be feeling
• Don’t tell people why you think they have suffered by given reasons, or disclosing your own “stuff”
• Don’t make promises that can’t be kept
• Don’t criticise existing services¬
While we want to watch the news to help us try and understand what has occurred, it can also make our collective grief more pronounced and increase stress in some. Most people find relief and comfort in talking about their thoughts and feelings related to these types of events. So, it’s perfectly reasonable to seek help from friends, family, spiritual advisors or a professional.
Finally, it is important to remember that the impact of this tragedy will be long lasting for many, and supporting those affected is just as important in the weeks and months that follow, as well as now.
If you need to speak to someone, or if you are feeling distressed, you can call or text 1737. There are extra staff available and the number is available to everyone.